Kegan’s Kindness: remembering through kindness

How do we remember those we’ve lost ? What does it mean to honor them, and why is it so important to loss parents that our friends and family partake in our remembrance requests?

When we lost our son, Kegan, a mere 10 days before his due date, one of my greatest fears was that the world would forget he existed. He never drew a breath, he never cried, and most importantly, the world never met him. So why would they remember, or care, that he was gone? As time passed, I developed a desire to channel the energy I had intended to spend raising Kegan into developing a legacy for him instead. As any proud parent, I just KNEW my child would make the world a better place, and when that possibility was cruelly ripped away from him…well, I wondered, why couldn’t I make the world a better place in his name?

As the first anniversary of Kegan’s death and birth approached (November 7), my husband and I racked our brains for an appropriate way to honor his legacy, for a meaningful way to GIVE him a legacy. We finally settled on a movement that has come to be known as Kegan’s Kindness; we ask friends and family to do acts of kindness in Kegan’s name on his birthday, and had cards specially made for distribution. As the years have passed, we have …